Making Therapy Affordable
Almost everyone is going through more difficult financial times then they can ever remember, and when our relationship is in trouble as well , it places additional stress on us. To handle this important issue, I have developed four ways that we can work together to try and minimize the cost and for it to be more affordable for your budget.
Firstly, I have asked several therapists to join me, their fees range from $60 to $390 , depending on which therapist you see and the length of the session.
Dr. Marty’s Fees: ( To learn more click on the session you are interested in)
Traditional Session $195 (50 minutes)
JumpStart Session $390 (100 minutes) To
learn more about Dr. Marty (click here)
Secondly, you can see your therapist every other week and this can also help reduce your expenses.
Thirdly, whenever possible, we try and focus on short term work. My average number of sessions for couples range from 7 to 9 meetings. In certain situations it could take fewer or more sessions. The more you work on the process the greater our progress.
Fourthly, as therapy progresses our meetings are further apart, which both tests how well things are going and spaces out the payment.
We also accept credit and debit cards.
Remember that when all is said and done, it’s not the expense of counseling– it’s what it costs if you lose the person you love, and that becomes expensive both emotionally and financially.
There is one more way to help make therapy affordable by progressing more quickly and delving into the problems in a more intense time wise way. Even though initially Intensive Jumpstart Sessions are more expensive (two sessions), we can tackle the biggest problems first and still have time to move along to the other issues. This can help us move forward much more rapidly and it becomes worth the investment. To learn more
Please give me a call 1(888) 281-5850 or send me an email and fill out the box on the right side of this page, and I will respond to you as soon as I can. I apologize if weekends take a little longer.
Take Care,
Looking forward to talking with you,
Dr. Marty
1(888) 281-5850
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Do you take insurance. Cause I have Independenc Blue Cross
We would be considered an out of network provider. Also please feel free to go to: http://www.yourmarriagecounselor.com/category/what-will-be-covered-during-counseling to see a short video on How to select a good counselor.
Me & my fiancce r having problems! I cheated on her in the summer of 2011. I prepose to her in December! But she’s still bringing up the issue of me cheating! How can we surive?
Relationships can be saved even after being unfaithful, but it would be advisable to seek outside help to deal with anger and trust issues, and other things
that may also be causing problems. If you care about the relationship, you have find a resource to help you understand and get the skills to stop this from having this
happen again.
I am a very open and honest person. My boyfriend who I love very much has lied to me at least 3 times which I called him out on. Now it is hard for me to trust and believe him. I am carrying his baby and we have plans to be together in the future and now I am not sure if I want to be with him anymore. I usually leave a relationship when lying is an issue but I feel stressed and vulnerable and worried about making a wrong move with the baby on the way. He says he does not want the relationship to end but I don’t know if it would work.
My husband and I have been married 10 years. But for the last 6 months, he has been saying we don’t get along, and he’s not happy and he’s tired of fighting with me(because he has started drinking ALOT). Is this marriage worth saving?
Dear Bec,
Only you know the answer to that question. To find the right answer, ask your self “Do I still love him?”
If the answer is “yes”, then run don’t walk to a counselor that has experience with drinking issues and ask for help.
Take care and good luck,
Dr. Marty
Me and my wife are having problems dealing with me having so much anger. We are married 3 years and a torso of 5 years together! I found a prepaid cell in her bag and she claims it’s her best friends. It contained messages with different guys! I believe her but I have so much anger and it’s leading me to not believe what she has told me! It’s been 1 month and we are happy one day and upset the next day now it seem one min happy the next bad! Is my marriage going down the drain?
my husband and i have communicating n understanding issues alot has come about sense weve been married he tends to loose his temper on certain issues to one point where he got violent
Hi Lee,
To answer your question more fully it would be helpful to know three things:
1) How ofter does this happen?
2) What does he do when he get’s violent?
3) What do you do when he is violent?
Looking forward to your answer so I can respond to your concern.
Dr. Marty
My fiancé and I have a child together and he has also been the “father figure” to my child from a previous relationship since she was a baby. We have been together close to 2yrs and for at least the first year he was 100% unfaithful but I stuck around for fear of what breaking the bond he had with my daughter would do to her(stupid) and I know there was my own reasons for staying as well. Problem is, once I got pregnant (unplanned) I felt like I should try and make the best of it. I don’t feel the way I used to for him, I guess like that saying “I love him but I’m not IN love with him.” I want to have the old sparks and butterflies but I can barely bring myself to be intimate, please help me…
Hi Dr MArty,I face the same problem with my husband,to answere your 3 questions,A1-initially happened once in a few months, then once in a month & now every week or every other day.A2-he gets very mad at me after 5-10 mins of talking,doesn’t want to listen to what I have to say,easily comes to wrong conclusions & then gets violent,physically throwing me or striking me.A3-I used to be shocked initially & get very depressed but last 2-3 years have started getting mad at him for the way he is treating me which rises my temper & this doesn’t quieten him & problem gets worse.We are married 16 years & am at my breaking point now willing to give up if not for my sons.He is not willing to come for councelling.
Dear Jha,
At this point the ball is in your court. You have 3 choices:
1. You can stay in the relationship and just reconcile yourself that this is the way he is going to be.
This is a dangerous choice because things usually get worse at everyone is at risk.
2. You can separate or file for divorce or if you can’t do either (divorce or accept)
3. You should talk to a professional counselor to help you figure out what to do next.
The next move is yours, remember even not deciding is making a decision.
Dr. Marty-
After the 12 most amazing married years of my life, I found my wife had multiple sexual contacts with multiple partners all during the last year. Some of the details of those encounters are staggering, even to a relatively modern and open-minded man such as me. Even though I have told her I am not willing to move forward because of the trust, betrayal and risk issues, she continues to pursue this destroyed marriage. Neither of us can afford to move out, and the divorce papers will be filed this week. She continues to push for a sexual relationship, and will not let go of what I have deemed a dead thing. Now she is saying that we should get counseling.
Will counseling help us, or will we be spending money we really don’t have just to reiterate what I already know- that I cannot be happy in a relationship with this woman who I truly believe will simply repeat her behavior? Her history suggests she will, it ended her last marriage as well.
I have been married for 7 years now and have never been an emotional person. My wife knew this but she is sick of feeling neglected. I love her but just can’t reach down and grab what isn’t there to show her. We are drifting farther apart because of it she is ready to move on unless I can change. Is marriage counseling for me or do I need a more specific type of therapy?
Thanks
Hello and thank you for taking my question. We have been married almost 33yrs, recent empty nesters~over the past 2 and7 yrs, between our two kids; husband ha tremendous stress at work and has distanced himself from me emotionally and physically for years. And if that wre nt enough, I have several chronic illness, including MS and; am on permanent disabity. There ae other bits and pieces as well. But, I thought that was enough to overwhelm anyone in a singe question. I’ve been to counseling off and on by myself.My husband is very a
to therapy. I need to get him into therapy with me, to save our marriagbe. I want us to reconnect and try to find that love we had before. I want us to be together supportive of each as well as for our children as they marry and start their families!
Can you offer us anything that might get my husband to counseling for the good of us all
Thanks so very much.
Maggie
Hi Maggie,
Thanks so much for your question I get this situation a lot. I’ll do the best I can to answer your question. I would approach your situation by you going to counseling first. When you come into counseling there may be things about your relationship that you have never thought of before that a trained counselor can help you with. Also in counseling you can learn ways of approaching your husband that you might not be aware of. When folks say to me “I’ve tried everything” my response is you’ve tried everything that you know; here are some ideas that you may not be aware of”. As your husband sees you changing or understanding him more, he is more inclined to either go into counseling or better yet change his reaction to your response to him.
Maggie, if you go to the center of the home page you can take a look at the section that says
“Here is what I (Dr. Marty) can teach you even if your partner doesn’t come for counseling” Also in the center of the home page is a four minute video that will also talk about what can be done if only one person comes for counseling
Instead of having a battle over counseling take the initiative and you go and see how you can be the trigger for change.
Good luck,
Dr. Marty
Hello Dr. Marty, my husband and I are having a tough time. We are opposites…I am the responsible one and he is the fun one. Being opposites had always seemed to work for us. He keeps me young and I take care of him. He is very irresponsible with money and can be very materialistic. Now that we are older I want to get our affairs in line so that we can start a family. My husband wants children and a home of our own but he doesn’t seem to understand why our affairs need to be in order first Our plan for this year was to pay off debt to put us in a better financial position for having a family. Last week he opened a new credit account and made a large purchase without consulting me. He admits that he didnt tell me becausd he knew I would say no and regrets his actions because of how upset I became but still believes that it is not a big deal. I also presented him the scenario in reverse and he also claims that he would not have a problem if I had done that to him. I love him si much but I am ready go grow and I feel like we don’t share the same goal, even though he’ll say otherwise. I’m not sure how to move forward.
Hi Marie,
To see my answer please go to my blog entry for July 18, 2012.
Please email me back and let me know what you think.
Good luck,
Dr. Marty
I would be an out of network provider
Hi Theresa,
It is very difficult to gain that old spark once you have been betrayed by unfaithfulness, but it can be done.
The answer is that it will take lots and lots of work by both of you. You need to sit down with a professional and figure out together what went wrong and how the two of you together can rebuild what has been broken
It will be difficult and only you can decide if you are willing and able to put in the time and the effort.
Counseling will help if you both are willing to work at it.
You have a great deal of negative history, but success is up to you. Are you both willing to do what it takes to make things work. If you had a serious illness how hard would you work to be cured? Counseling and positive guided behavior must be a priority and a central focus of both of your lives
Hi Aaron,
That’s a decision only you can make from your heart. You both need to sit down and make a list of why you want your marriage to work and figure out how strong those reasons are. Unless the reasons are very strong your marriage will not survive. If you really want your relationship to work you need to find a counselor who is willing to work with you that you trust and must meet regularly with. You have to realize that there are no easy answers and have to ask yourselves to you have what it takes to rebuild from wreckage that has been caused as a result of your behaviors.
Hi Leah,
My first question to you is “Do you want the relationship to work?” If the answer is “yes”, under what conditions do you want the relationship to work?”
If the conditions aren’t met what then? – You need a specific plan, so that you can plan ahead and not have to make impulsive decisions. Ask yourself “Do I need professional help to answer these questions. So my message to you is first you need to answer the questions I’ve outlined and then you can go from there.
Feel free to email the answers and we can go from there.
Dr. Marty
Hi Dr Marthy,
Me & My husband married from last 3 years but all the time we were fighting with each other. We have lot of differences between us. Also I have lots of anger which he cannot tolerate. Also he want me to keep smiling in any situation which I feel doesn’t right. There are situations in life when u can’t be happy.
We both have given many chances to each other to change ourselves and keep our marriage. But now we have reached to the point where we dont want to continue.
Please advise.
Thanks
I recently found out that my husband of only 4 months (but we’ve dated for 6) had an affair (approximatley 4 months) with a younger woman. He said it wasnt intentional and he didnt seek it out, but became emotionally invested in the her as he got to know her. He agrees that he took advantage of her in a vulnerable state and further stated that he wants to remains friends with her, but is committed to me/us and will have nomore romantic involvement. I have spoken with her several times and have even met with her. She is a nice person and does have some deep issues and needs guidance. I feel she has been opena nd honest with me – but it seems that aside from their physcicla relationship nothing has really changed, where as mine has changed tremendously. To some degree I feel as though I can even be friend to her – and she feels the same, but my husband’s lack of committment to cut ties with her and his constant defence of actions really still upsets me and makes me questions my actions and his honestly. I truly love him. And i dont want to get divorced. I belive him when he tells me he loves me and i can even almost handle a friendship (if i am included as well) but im still just a bit insecure with the whole thing. I feel as though i am making all the sacrifices for my marriage and my future. The wound is sill fresh and am hopeful that it will heal over time, but am still fearful. Thoughts?
Hi Marcie,
From what you describe there are some serious issues in your relationship, to ignore them will only make them worse. The best chance you have toward preserving your relationship
is with a trained counselor, who has dealt with this sort of issue. Of course I and my group are glad to be of help, but call up some therapists, (please see my free video on how to pick a good counselor on my home page for a guide on what to look for.
Good luck
Dr. Marty