Beyond Revenge (Part two of a five part series)
Dr. Marty’s thoughts about Revenge and Forgiveness
I agree with the author’s findings that it is natural to want to get back at someone who has wronged or hurt you or has done damage to someone or something that is of value to you. I also recognize that it is easier said than done. I agree with the author that forgiveness is an important survival strategy (more on this later in a later blogs).
The first question to ask yourself is: “Why would I not want to get revenge on someone who has hurt me, after all they hurt me so shouldn’t I get back at them? If you can’t come up with a reason, probably there’s no more to think about in terms of not being vengeful or forgiving.
In my next blog I will discuss why for some people, it may be of benefit to let go of the inclination to take revenge and in the fourth blog for this week I will talk about forgiveness, the antidote to revenge.