The Relationship Intensive ~ For Couples & Individuals

Hi. I’m Dr. Marty.

Is your relationship going through some tough times? I’ve been marriage counselor for over thirty years, and I’ve seen every type of problem.

To name just a few:

  • Couples who have fallen out of love with each other
  • Infidelity
  • Loss of trust
  • High conflict couples
  • Conflict averse couples
  • One partner has checked out
  • Addictions
  • Abuse – emotional or physical
  • Loss of communication
  • Anger
  • Lack of physical intimacy
  • Midlife crisis

Damaged relationships can be healed. I’ve created a unique program, The Relationship Intensive, for you to heal your relationship.

This program is very different from other programs. The techniques in The Relationship Intensive have been tested with thousands of couples that I have counseled in over thirty years of practice.

In have a PhD in Clinical Psychology and I am a licensed Marriage & Family Counselor. I also have a graduate degree in education.

What many counselors don’t realize is that counseling is both a psychological and an educational process.

Here is what we know in terms of how we learn: Short periods, a maximum of two hours, with constant modifications and reenforcement, are far more likely to create permanent change.

With longer term programs, the information and practice decreases over time.

Unlike other intensive programs, The Relationship Intensive is designed from both a therapeutic and educational perspective.

The Relationship Intensive ~ For Individuals

It is very common for only one person to seek help. If your partner does not want to participate, don’t let that stop you.

When individuals come to me to save their relationship, they are sad and often panicky. In many cases they have no idea of what they should do to stop their partner from leaving.

At the beginning of the program, each person gets a digital copy of my Relationship Rescue Manual. The manual has strategies and exercises that will help the process get started right away.

If you wait for your partner to participate, things will get worse. Rebuilding your relationship gets harder.

Here is what I can teach you immediately, even without your partners involvement:

  • How to better understand your partner, even if they don’t speak to you.
  • How to effectively influence your partner when you do talk with them.
  • How to deal with your partner when they won’t listen to you.
  • How to help your children in a household that has conflict.
  • How to handle difficult situations like your partner’s anger, addiction, or in-law problems.

As you learn to deal more effectively with these issues, there are two things that often happen.

First, many partners notice the changes, and they respond favorably. They also become more willing to communicate.

Second, the other person becomes less defensive. They see the positive differences, and very often they are willing to start working on The Relationship Intensive with you.

Here is what I do in the complete program:

  1. We start with a Personality Analysis.  The purpose of the Personality Analysis is to help you to understand both yourself and your partner.
  2. We meet for a single 50 minute session, or more if you would like. Included in this meeting is my Healing Behavior Inventory to determine exactly what each partner needs to do make the other partner feel loved. The Healing Behavior Inventory looks at specific behaviors that each partner equates to being loved. It is important to realize that what you consider loving may be very different than what your partner considers loving.
  3. We will have one 1/2 follow-up phone session (25 min.) to monitor how things are going.
  4. We have our next meeting, somewhere between a week and ten days, to continue to work on the issues brought up doing our first meeting.

Between the session is a 1/2 phone session. You and your partner can feel free to send emails. At this point we go to the my regular model of counseling to determine what is needed next.

All the other intensive programs have a specific format for their program, which assumes one size fits all.

From lots of experience, I can tell you that is not the case.

Though there are many similarities, there are also differences which must be addressed in order for the healing process to be successful.

The Relationship Intensive – For Individuals: Cost $1050

Summary of The Relationship Intensive – For Individuals

  • Instant Download of Relationship Rescue Manual or Healing The Trauma of Infidelity
  • 1 Personality Analysis
  • 3 Sessions with Dr. Marty
  • Healing Behavior inventory
  • Negotiation for Couples: From Conflict to Cooperation ebook

The Relationship Intensive ~ For Couples

Traditional intensives may offer a full day, weekend, or three or four day retreat. But the truth is we get saturated after a short period of time, over more than two hours. It’s like cramming for an exam in college – how much do you remember after the test?

Strategies and techniques may make sense at the time. But what about a week, a month, or even a year later? The more emotional the material, the harder it is to retain, as our brain is reacting to the emotions rather than the information.

Another issue which is overlooked by people not formally trained is really understanding both your own, and your partner’s, personality.

Additionally, people think that what feels right to them is what their partner wants. Understanding what truly feels caring to your partner is important. To address this I have developed my “Healing Behavior Inventory” pathway to love.

How The Relationship Intensive works

Each person gets a digital copy of my Relationship Rescue Manual. The manual has strategies and exercises that will help throughout the process.

If the couple is dealing with infidelity, they will get the appropriate download book “Healing From the Trauma of Infidelity” (one book is for the faithful partner and one is for the unfaithful partner.)

  1. We start with a Personality Analysis for both people. It is so important to have a good emotional picture of ourselves and of our partner, and I’ve not seen any other program that starts with this approach.
  2. We have a Jumpstart Session (2 hours) to get an idea of the scope of the problem. We develop strategies to work on the issues and to improve communication, and to positively relate to the anger. I’ve been doing Jumpstart Sessions for years now with great success.
  3. There is a 1/2 session phone call to see how things are going, and to see what’s necessary to get to the next Jumpstart. Between session emails are encouraged.
  4. We have our next Jumpstart Session between a week and 10 days later to continue to work on the issues brought up during our first meeting.

At this point we determine if we need single sessions and how soon they need to be scheduled.

At future sessions, using the Healing Behavior Inventory that I have created to determine exactly what each partner needs to do make their partner feel loved.

Note:

(1) This is the only program that looks at specific behaviors that each individual equates to being loved.

(2) Other programs go into this stage too quickly, before old resentments are dealt with, and before good communication skills are learned.

At this point we go to the my regular model of counseling to determine what is needed next.

All the other intensive programs have a specific format for their program, which assumes one size fits all.

From lots of experience, I can tell you that is not the case.

Though there are many similarities, there are also differences which must be addressed in order for the healing process to be successful.

At this stage you will have completed my first book(s) and you can move on to reading my ebook: Negotiation Handbook for Couples: From Conflict to Connection, which has many techniques and strategies for negotiating with your partner.

The Relationship Intensive – For Couples: Cost $1890

Summary of The Relationship Intensive – For Couples

  • Instant Download of Relationship Rescue Manual or Healing The Trauma of Infidelity
  • 2 Personality Analyses
  • 3 Double Sessions with Dr. Marty. This may include both meeting with the couple and each person individually
  • 2 1/2 phone sessions for each person
  • Healing Behavior Inventory
  • Negotiation for Couples: From Conflict to Connection ebook

The Relationship Intensive vs. Traditional Intensives

  • Is based on an individualized program depending on the couple and the individuals
  • Each person gets my Specialized Personality Assessment
  • One Size fits all
  • Do not have individualized evaluations
Divided in to digestible parts

Advantages:

  1. Less wearing on people
  2. More convenient
  3. Easier to absorb
Weekends, Full Day, 3 or 4 Days

Issues:

  1. Disrupts life schedule
  2. Additional expense
  3. Difficult to absorb all the material
Follow-up constantly built into program

  1. Convenient 1/2 sessions between Jumpstarts (mini intensive) to make adjustments when need be
  2. email communication as needed
Limited Follow-up
Partners take my Healing Behavior Inventory, a pathway to love, to identify exactly what partners need to feel loved Have general “prescriptions” for how to help your partner feel that you love them
Personalized Attention
1. Individual attention to specific personalities & issues
2. All contact is one on one so that suggestions can be designed for your unique situation
Seminars or classes
Many of us do not want our problems to be shared with strangers. There are difficult issues to be dealt with. Having more people present can be embarrassing and limit communication, and most importantly, learning new skills. In these situations many people do not want to deal with other peoples problems. It’s hard enough for them to deal with their own.

In The Relationship Intensive you will learn

  • How to communicate so you can be truly heard
  • How to effectively deal with anger
  • How to negotiate with your partner
  • How to remove blocks from the past and when appropriate from growing up
  • How to get your partner to understand you
  • Strategies to avoid conflict
  • What to do if you do find yourself in an argument
  • How to create a loving caring relationship

My story

Having gone through a difficult divorce myself thirty years ago, and having been with my current wife, Roberta (who works with me) for over twenty years, I know what it can mean in someone’s life to be in a loving relationship.

In the beginning of our relationship, we went through a very difficult time. I know how it feels first hand to struggle in a relationship. Thankfully, using what I’ve learned, we’ve really been able to come out of our difficulties and into a strong, loving relationship.

We each had to realize that to have a good partner you have to be a good partner.

When I recently asked Roberta how have I changed, she said “you’ve become more flexible.” I listen to her more, I’m open to hearing her point of view, and together we have learned to disagree in an agreeable way.

We are closer to each other because we sat down and realized that we wanted to be together for the long term. That means we both have to be dedicated to work on ourselves, and on our relationship.

Last thoughts

I have two Masters degrees, a PhD in Clinical Psychology, and over thirty years of experience with Couples and Marriage Counseling. I’ve written five books, all of which have been dedicated to helping couples and families to stay together.

I want to take my successful track record and do everything I can to help your relationship heal and thrive.

Dr. Marty - Your Marriage Counselor - Marriage Counseling in NJPersonally I feel terrific when I can help a couple to stay together.

Looking forward to talking with you,

Dr. Marty

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