Get an idea of your emotional EI

Lets dig a little deeper and take this short EI quiz

Relationship Emotional Intelligence Questions

It is important that you do this analysis for yourself and not for your partner, remember the higher your emotional Intelligence is, the more influence you will have over the direction of the relationship.

1. How often to you stop and check in with yourself about how you are feeling emotionally and physically?

      Rarely                                                            Often

      1…………………………..5………………………10

2.   When I am very upset with my partner I focus on   

       healing and balancing myself.

      Rarely                                                             Often

     1…………………………..5………………………10

3.   How often do I loose your temper when there is

     a disagreement.

     Rarely                                                             Often

     1…………………………..5………………………10

4.How well do I understand my partner’s feelings

      Very little                                                A great deal

     1…………………………..5………………………10

5.  Do I allow the other person time to “cool down”

     or do you go into attack mode.

    Rarely                                                             Often

  1…………………………..5………………………10

6.  How often do I shut down and withdraw

    Rarely                                                             Often

    1…………………………..5………………………10

7. I can depend on my self and know how to take care 

    of my self in a kind way

    You can’t always depend on your partner to do or

    say the right thing, even the best person has

    sensitive  subjects and bad days

Rarely                                                                 Often

    1…………………………..5………………………10

8.  How much do I own your part in an argument

     and the reason for your strong response-

     without trying to justify it by saying “but”?

    Rarely                                                             Often

    1…………………………..5………………………10

9.   When I get upset with my partner do I allow

      them to speak without interrupting them?

      Rarely                                                             Often

      1…………………………..5………………………10

10. I really hear my partner out even when there is an emotional issue that I totally disagree with.

 Rarely                                                             Often

      1…………………………..5………………………10

Rating less than a 6 on any of these questions could indicate that your Emotional Intelligence would need to improve to provide your partner with needed emotional support.