Our show was broadcast from April 18, 2017 through February 27, 2018, on Oldies 1079 WOLD
Dr. Marty covers subjects such as infidelity, addictions, love languages, communication, anger, divorce, relationship killers, trust, jealousy, and much more!
3:20 Conflict is part of every relationship. For relationships to thrive and survive, it is not about the differences, it is about how to handle the differences.
4:00 A lasting relationship, to a large extent, depends on how you deal with these differences.
4:45 It’s possible to find a middle ground, without your relationship suffering collateral damage.
5:40 Take your partner’s feelings and perspective into account, and work with them to come up with a solution that works for both of you.
6:00 We’ll look at three different types of negotiation styles that people take, that do not work.
6:55 We are reintroduced to Richard and Mary, our “negotiating couple” example.
8:00 The first principle: Successful negotiation is not about winning.
8:45 What is a great way to sabotage a negotiation? Put down the other person’s ideas or feelings.
9:20 A rule to remember: A good communication opens up discussion, and the possibility of other options and compromise.
10:30 When someone is negotiating for something, it is important to understand why they want what they want.
12:13 You job as a good negotiator is to figure out how to keep the negotiation on a positive track.
12:50 People tend to fall into three styles when negotiating: the attacker, the pleaser, and the avoider.
17:33 A positive negotiator can be thought of as a collaborator. A collaborator is aware of their partner’s feelings and needs. They look for something that will satisfy both, or a “win-win” situation. They are creative problem solvers. A collaborator realizes that the relationship is more important than the issue being negotiated. The collaborator is looking for a solution that will result in a better, closer relationship.
18:52 What if my partner doesn’t play fair?
20:02 What do people really need in a relationship? What is important to always keep in mind?
21:10 How could Rich and Mary both be collaborators?
25:40 Three questions you can ask yourself, to rate yourself on how good a negotiator you are.