Our show is available for listening here on YMC. Be sure to tune in every Tuesday at 7pm, on 107.9 WOLD, for our next show. Post your questions right here on the blog. And we look forward to hearing from you on the show!
The call in number for the on air program is 732-748-1079. You can also post questions right here, to be answered on the show.
1:30 Our topic tonight continues with negotiation.
2:02 One of the first things to do when you get involved with a negotiation is to take your own emotional temperature.
2:30 Dr. Marty takes a call from a woman who has been going through a four year divorce. Her husband will not communicate, and she is wondering what to do next? The caller and her husband are in the process of possibly reuniting.
3:45 Dr. Marty talks with the caller about how the relationship went south, the background of infidelity on her husband’s part, and how this couple has tried to deal with the issue.
5:40 We learn about what the caller’s husband has done to express interest in reuniting. Is he truly interested in restarting the relationship? Or just stringing her along?
7:43 Dr Marty talks with the caller about just how much she has thought about what it would be like not to be with her husband?
8:55 Dr. Marty summarizes the caller’s situation as it stands, and recommends that the likely course is to continue to go to court.
11:00 What would it mean for her husband to be operating in good faith here?
13:20 Dr. Marty suggests the possibility, just to give it the best shot, of the caller initiating some open ended questions with her husband, via email, about how the marriage went wrong.
15:55 We learn some suggestions about how an email conversation go in this situation.
17:05 On the other side, as the caller opens the doors, she also needs to keep doing things to take care of herself.
18:50 After our call-in finishes, Dr. Marty looks at the possible responses to infidelity in a marriage.
21:00 Dr. Marty takes up the subject of negotiation again. What makes negotiation so hard?
22:35 We are reintroduced to Richard and Mary, and their negotiation about Mary’s desire to move to Colorado, to be closer to her parents.
23:38 We learn about the first principle of successful negotiation: for both people to feel good about the outcome and the process.
24:10 Dr. Marty talks about additional rules for negotiation.
24:52 What is a good communication, really?
27:30 What happens when negotiation turns into an argument?
28:00 Dr. Marty summarizes three important things to take away from the negotiation discussion.