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Individual Counseling for:
Anxiety, Anger, Depression, and Addicitons.
1-888-281-5850
Middlesex & Somerset County, New Jersey
Phone counseling sessions locally and across the country
Saving Your Relationship and Making It Work
Imagine how your relationship was in the beginning. I will help you build on those feelings, so that you can find the love that you have lost.
I work with traditional and non traditional couples who are: dating, in long term relationships, living together, engaged, newly weds or couples who have been married for years.
Some people say to me “Are you in favor of saving the marriage?” My answer to them is: “Yes, as long as it is not physically and emotionally destructive to either of you.” Relationships are one of the most important things in our lives and it’s not always easy to get along with so many difficult situations that arise.
During my 34 years of being a marriage counselor, I have learned that there are many things we can do to help couples with problems. I can teach you how to: improve communications, deal with emotional pain, and anger.
Together we can figure out what has gone wrong and what it takes to rebuild your relationship. During counseling, we will rekindle the caring, warmth, and love that the two of you once had.
I will help you to find answers to difficult problems in your relationship.
In counseling, we can find solutions. When couples first start counseling everything seems to be falling apart. When people come to see me they have a lot of anger, hurt, and sadness. Some people are panicky and others are doubtful about whether or not they want to be married.
There are techniques that couples can use to deal with their feelings and problems. People come in saying “I’ve tried everything and nothing has worked.” During our sessions, they are surprised to find out that there are many things that they weren’t aware of and had never thought of.
These are the three steps in counseling.
One - We get the problems, issues, and resentments out in the open and in a safe and productive place.
Two - We deal with the disappointments, resentments and anger.
I will also show you how to: rebuild your friendship and deal with different points of view.
Three – I will teach you how to build a new relationship, a relationship with: trust, understanding, kindness, fun, and love.
Take the first step towards a better relationship.
Things you can learn during counseling
• How to handle your partner’s rejection.
• Exactly what to do to get your partner to listen to you.
• How to handle your feelings of: hurt, frustration, and anger.
• How to turn around your partner’s hostility and rejection and open the lines of communication.
What if only one person is willing to come for counseling?
When your partner isn’t willing to come in for help for the relationship, it is even more important for us to talk. By waiting for them to be ready, you are putting the future of the relationship in their hands. If you really want the best chance to save your relationship, you need to learn what you can do.
Here is what I can teach you even if your partner doesn’t come in for counseling:
1. How to better understand your partner even if they don’t speak to you.
2. How to effectively influence your partner when you do talk with them.
3. Learn how to deal with your partner when they won’t listen to you.
4. Get support for a difficult situation.
5. How to help your children in a household that has conflict.
6. Learn how to handle difficult situations like: your partner’s anger, addiction, or In-law problems.
If your relationship is in trouble, don’t wait for your partner to be ready.
While you’re waiting for them to come for counseling things will get worse and rebuilding your relationship gets harder.
As you learn to deal more effectively when your partner won’t join in counseling there are two things that often happen;
First, many partners notice the change and they respond favorably. They also become more willing to communicate.
Secondly, the other person becomes less defensive, because they see that counseling is actually making a positive difference and very often they are willing to come in for counseling.
Dr. Marty’s 5 Promises to You:
As a marriage counselor and someone who is involved in a long term relationship, I’ve come to realize how hard it is and how much effort goes into maintaining a good relationship.
First – If you don’t feel that we have made any progress during our session, there is no charge for the session.
Second - I have phone sessions for emergencies.
Third - I encourage emails between sessions and I either respond directly or use the material during our session.
Fourth - There is no charge for a brief follow-up phone call after our session. If you have a question about something that was said during our time together, you don’t have to wait until our next meeting to get clarification on what was said.
Fifth - There is no charge for a last minute cancellation. I believe that there are important things that come up and I am respectful of that fact.
Phone Sessions
If in person sessions aren’t possible, phone sessions are available.
Help is just a phone call away
1-888-281-5850
Phone counseling is also available.
I offer a 20 minute free phone consultation so that you can see if you think that I am able to understand your problems and if you are comfortable talking with me.
I answer my own phone; I use voice mail not a service. If I’m not immediately available, I am the only person who will hear your message. Please leave: your name, your phone numbers (as many as possible i.e. home, work, cell), and a good time to reach you. If you like, you may give me a brief description of why you are calling.
I know it’s hard to make that first call and I feel it’s important for me to get back to you as soon as possible. During weekends, I may not always be available, but I promise that I will make your call a priority first thing on Monday.
With hope and caring,
Dr. Marty
34 years of helping couples stay together
NJ Licensed Marriage & Family Counselor #100940
In office counseling in Middlesex & Somerset County - New Jersey
Serving Somerset, New Brunswick, North Brunswick, Somerville, East Brunswick and other neighboring cities.